It’s possible to learn lessons from every person in our lives, even the uncharacteristic ones I dislike. There may be lessons to be learned in analyzing the life of a negative person indifferent to happiness and sorrow, who only wants effort, the refuge of self-improvement in this world.
The second-century Roman emperor Marcus Aurelius left a guide to successfully accomplishing such tasks. The reflection of life where you are in the book ‘Dhyana’ written by the one who has left a thorough description.
Marcus said, “At the beginning of the day, imagine to yourself, today I may meet someone who is ungrateful, unpleasant, arrogant, crooked and philandering”, then think to yourself, “All these negative things happen in their lives. They do not understand what is good and what is good.” What evil or because of their ignorance and stupidity”.
However, noting all their characteristic traits, Marcuse states that we must understand that the negative person is a person like us, even if he behaves weakly, “his intelligence is not developed, but he has everything that God has given him”.
Someone’s negative side may annoy or embarrass us but we cannot forcefully change that which is their internal nature. Analyzing our inner personal quality, the basic emotional power to control ourselves, Marcuse explains, “Nobody else can change the ugly or unpleasant side of me overnight, nor can I drive away the negative side of my partner by hating them. “.
Human life, as we have seen, is built on our mastery of cooperating with one another. By being cooperative, we can create a beautiful environment, or we can turn away and go our separate ways by creating an atmosphere of resentment or controversy.
Lessons learned from positive learning:
Think about how each person in your life is a reflection on yourself, such as your parents, grandparents, siblings, close relatives, teachers, friends or others. Think of each separately. Some will get positive sympathy, some will get negative unbearable side, so what? There are certainly clear lessons to be learned from positive empathy. But what lessons can be learned from those who have negative characteristics?
It is not possible to tell who is positive and who is negative in Marcuse’s writings, because he only tells what positive lessons he received. He learned from his grandfather, “ethics and the discipline of depraved tempers”. From his mother he learned piety, charity and self-restraint from such evil thoughts. It should be a simple normal life, without the influence of the pomp of the rich. Others have taught him modesty, decency, not wasting time on frivolities, love of truth and preference for justice. There is a numbing tendency in our lives to blame others for our mistakes. Holding on to this negative feeling does not solve anything, but has the potential to fail.
Here Marcus goes a step further and says, “I try to eliminate any dishonest side of myself by looking at the bad character of the negatives”. His general intention was to devote himself to self-improvement and unswerving determination, not to be disturbed by the influence of the deranged people around him. Such is the lesson that Marcus left for us.
We cannot easily change the world around us, changing others is a difficult task, but we can motivate ourselves, depending on the situation, to change something ourselves so that the benefits may come. It should also be noted that we do not lean towards any unsatisfactory side of the negative or leave us under negative influence. In this way we can remain happy by virtue of our own moral excellence, no matter what we face.
Running naturally and naturally:
Marcuse has been in the company of many civil and virtuous men in his life, in whose company he has been admirably enriched along the way, for whom he is grateful. He went on to say that we feel sad when there is any kind of separation, defeat or loss, because we do not want to admit or accept that in this changing world nothing is permanent or there is no such thing as permanent settlement. Many agnostics or apathetic people agree with Marcuse’s philosophy. They want to say that life is really temporary, happiness, sadness or desire, disappointment happens in everyone’s life, happens and goes away. Taking things easy in moderation can be blissful.
Marcus realizes that everything in life is changeable, that nature is also constantly changing, the flowers that are fragrant today are dirty tomorrow. We can never achieve siddhakama in life if we go beyond the course of nature. We certainly cannot be happy if eternal and eternal joy, happiness is all we want and strive to be all we want.
On the other hand, if we are able to adapt to any changing situation of life by our own ability, then we can find permanent happiness.
Such a happy life can be past the control of the mind by external desires, intense desires, resentments and discontents.
Marcuse wants to encourage us to deeply understand the world around us, to face the reality of unexpected events in society, community, family. We want to assure you, today we can be distracted by any accident or overwhelmed by the wonderful, pleasant, joyful environment, but every moment is fleeting. Analyzing its meaning or importance, it can be said that there is no use in temptation, competition, every event on the shore of life is just a grain of sand in the endless sand. In the midst of all the temporary flux of events, we can be broken-hearted in the midst of resentment. But Marcus assures that annoyances are to be expected, unexpected, part of life, to be accepted willingly by the mind. Each of us may at times cause annoyance to others, through our own mistakes, but when this happens to others we do not try to sympathize with good judgment.
Marcus quote, “If someone hates me, that’s his business. But I will try to be kind and benevolent to everyone.”
He says that many things are happening around us all the time, it is necessary to notice how immediately who reacts to a single incident, how everyone is personally showing their inner manifestation, who is genuine.
He also said, we can try to improve ourselves by learning from many incidents of daily life, we can try to do something good by keeping determination in our self-analysis. Each of us may have within our reach an image of integrity, of excellence, only to be cherished.